Are we really failing?

I’ve seen it posted multiple times this week, Mama’s posting about failing their kiddos or that they are raising terrible kids.

Trust me, I wanted to write a similar post this week. My kids have spent the week arguing with one another, hitting and just generally being little poopers.

I sat one day this week, and just felt so discouraged over it. Am I a bad mother? Am I raising them WRONG? Do I not yell enough? Do I yell too much? Am I not pointing them to Jesus and His love enough? Am I not praying the right things? What am I doing WRONG?

It happens. We all sit there and have self doubt. We doubt our abilities to raise decent humans. At least, I do, on a daily basis. I go to bed at night making a list of the things I did wrong, and how I’ll be 100% tomorrow, ha! That doesn’t happen, by the way.

But, I have to let you in on a little secret I’ve come to know.

I’ve learned when I’ve made a mistake, to be quick to apologize to my kids and make it right with them. Parents are human, we all fall short of His glory and we all can be humble enough to even apologize to a three year old.

So, while my behavior and theirs sometimes doesn’t align to my expectations, I’ve learned that if we are quick to make it right and give it to Him, tomorrow will be a better day! You are teaching your kids to be humble in failure, which really exalts you at the same time. We are teaching them not to keep a record of wrong.

To prove my point, we have been asking our kids at night what stood out in their day. It wasn’t me yelling at them when it was unneeded, or them arguing with each-other, or me being a control freak over messes or me ending up in tears over spilled milk. They remember when we sat for TWO MINUTES to share that milk before it was splattered all over the table. Your kids are not keeping record of your failures. Your kids aren’t holding you to the past. You are but they are not.

Don’t let your failures hold you back, let them be motivation to create a conversation with your kids and create GROWTH for the next day.

Perfection is for the BIRDS, but being real, that’s for everyone. Teach your kiddos to be real, and don’t teach them failure is something to fear, because it’s not.

At the end of the day, you will be building character in them. You will be setting them up for success because they’ll know people fail, and that’s okay. PLUS, you are their Mama, created to be that for them, and NO ONE can do it quite like YOU.

Until next time,

xoxo

-Becca

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

I Corinthians 13:4-7

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